“You know what you need to do.
Or maybe everything feels so overwhelming you don’t know where to start.”
Not because you’re lazy or broken —
but because parts of you don’t feel safe yet.”
You try to push through, stay productive, do all the right things.
Especially when it means being seen, deciding, or taking up space.
Under the surface there’s a part of you that’s still terrified to mess it up, get it wrong, or let someone down.
That’s not a motivation problem.
That’s younger, vulnerable part of you pulling the handbrake — right when you’re about to take action — because they don’t feel safe yet.
And no productivity hack will fix that — because it was never about willpower. It’s been about safety.
I help thoughtful, introspective people untangle that fear and rebuild self-worth from the inside out — using IFS and EFT.
You don’t avoid action because you don’t care.
You avoid it because a part of you learned that trying can be dangerous.
Dangerous might have meant: being criticized, getting it wrong, disappointing someone, losing connection, being seen.
So when you’re about to take a step forward, that part steps in.
It slows you down.
Distracts you.
Makes you doubt yourself.
Pulls the handbrake right when momentum starts to build.
Not to sabotage you.
But to protect you.
From its point of view, not acting feels safer.
Why this matters
What’s really happening
This is why pushing harder hasn’t worked.
And why productivity tools only help for a while.
You’re not fighting a lack of discipline.
You’re meeting a protective system that hasn’t felt safe yet.
Once this makes sense, the self-blame can stop.
About Me
I don’t push you to change.
I don’t try to fix you or motivate you to be someone else.
Our work starts by slowing things down.
Together, we pay attention to the moments where something in you pulls back — before speaking up, asking for more, being seen, or taking the next step in your relationship.
Not to get rid of these parts, but to understand what they’re protecting.
I work with parts of you that learned to stay quiet, incapable, or “good”.
We meet them with understanding, not pressure. And we help them.
This is not about becoming more confident on the outside.
It’s about rebuilding trust on the inside.
When your parts start to feel understood, movement happens naturally.
I’m a Level 2 Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner and a Clinical EFT Practitioner. My work is grounded in trauma-informed, parts-based approaches, with a focus on shame, anxiety, self-worth, and expression.
Methods I use
IFS (IFS Level 2 Practitioner)
We all know situations in our lives when we feel like one part of us wants to do this, but another part wants something completely different. Or perhaps you wish you would have some characteristics/ or wish a personality trait or behavioral pattern would go away?
IFS (Internal Family System Model) is based on idea that we are made up of multiple sub-personalities/parts, each with its own unique viewpoints and qualities and its normal. These sub-personalities/parts are often pushed to fulfill extreme, unnatural roles based on past trauma.
EFT (Certified Clinal EFT Practicioner)
Work through emotional trauma from childhood, birth trauma, conception, ancestry, and even past lives with Clinical EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). We use the EFT tapping on meridian pathways to rewire our brain, adding new connections and cutting off the neural pathways that no longer serve us.
For example, tapping on acupuncture points soothes the body and sends a signal of safety to our limbic part of the brain. The limbic system usually responds to the physiological signal of safety, overrides the psychological signal of danger, and produces delta waves (relaxation and deep sleep waves).
As a result, the conditioned loop is broken, and we are rewiring the subconscious mind (powerful information processor that runs automatic, often undesirable program behaviors).
My Book
First Aid for Social Anxiety
How to Deal With Social Anxiety in the Moment of Trigger?
This book grew out of the same work you’ve been reading about here.
It’s for moments when anxiety, shame, or self-doubt take over — especially in social situations, conversations, or moments of visibility. You can use it when anxiety hits, it has been written based on my personal struggles with anxiety.
It doesn’t try to fix you or push confidence. It helps you understand what’s happening inside you and it offers very practical tool you can apply even in the moment of trigger, on the spot, in social or any other situations.
You can start here.
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