I Don’t Like Talking About My Problems

What if I don’t feel like sharing everything during the first session but still wish to address my problem?

I struggled with opening up when I started emotional healing sessions with practitioners. This wasn’t only about emotions like embarrassment, shame, remorse, or fear of being judged. It also included concerns like:

• Feeling uncertain about what might emerge during live coaching sessions (emotions, memories, or thought processes), which can feel like a loss of control, especially at the start.

• Worrying if the coach will understand me, speak my language, or get how I process things. Is this person a safe space to open up to?

• Wondering if the coach will impose their own ideas of what healing should look like on my experiences.

You might have protective parts of yourself, formed in response to environments where it wasn’t safe to share. Perhaps in the past, you were judged, criticized, or even scolded for expressing yourself or making mistakes. So, it’s completely understandable if you’re not ready to discuss your problem or share painful memories with a stranger. You may not even want to think about those memories or emotions—and that’s okay. During sessions, it’s possible to honor these protective parts without adding additional stress by pushing them to reveal more than they’re ready for.

What Tools Can We Use if You’re Not Ready to Share?

We don’t want to force the protective parts of you by demanding they share details they’re uncomfortable with. You’re encouraged to share only what feels right. We work with your protective parts, honoring their boundaries and not imposing expectations or “shoulds.”

• Emotional freedom means being able to work on your issue even if you’re not ready to share it with the practitioner or the world.

• It makes sense for your system to test if the practitioner is safe, trustworthy, and in tune with you. Don’t feel pressured to rush into sharing.

• You deserve to work on your issues at your own pace, in a safe environment. It’s entirely your choice if you decide to share something during or after the session.

Sharing your story or memories is not a requirement for the session’s effectiveness. Some of my favorite techniques include the Silent Movie Technique and Chasing the Pain Technique:

1. Silent Movie Technique

   How does it work? You assign the challenging memory a title, as if you were titling a movie. If you prefer not to share this title, that’s okay too. Then, you silently replay the stressful event in your mind without talking about it. I’ll guide you through the emotionally intense peaks of the memory so you won’t feel lost, even if I don’t know the specifics of your story.

2. Chasing the Pain Technique

   This technique helps identify the emotions contributing to a physical symptom without you needing to share the details of your memories.

To sum up, if you don’t feel like discussing your issue, that’s perfectly fine. I understand; after all, I’m still a stranger to you. We can use gentle techniques to address your issue without needing to talk (or even think) about it directly.

If this resonates with you, feel free to book a 1:1 session with me here.